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PostPosted: Wed Apr 06, 2011 2:16 pm    Post subject: Parenting Do's and Dont's Reply with quote

Hi Parents this is a memo from a toddler like me kindly read. So that you can understand why I behave in a certain why.

21 Memo's from a Child

1. Don’t spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not have all that I ask for, I’m only testing you.

2. Don’t be afraid to be firm with me, I prefer it. It makes me feel more secure.

3. Don’t make me form bad habits, I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.

4. Don’t make me feel smaller than I am, it only makes me behave stupidly “big”

5. Don’t correct me infront of people if you can help it. I’ll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.

6. Don’t make me feel mistakes are sins, it upset my sense of values.

7. Don’t protect me from consequences, I need to learn the painful way, sometimes.

8. Don’t be too upset when I say “I hate”, it isn’t you I hate but your power to thwart me .

9. Don’t take too much notice of my small ailments, sometimes they get me the attention I need.

10. Don’t nag if you do, I have to protect myself by appearing deaf.

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http://mattscradle.com/2011/01/09/parenting-do%E2%80%99s-and-don%E2%80%99ts-from-21-memos-from-a-child/
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PostPosted: Fri Apr 08, 2011 6:08 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

cool!
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PostPosted: Sat Apr 09, 2011 4:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Those memos are essential if you have a toddler. Smile
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PostPosted: Sat Apr 16, 2011 9:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

nice post, great reminder.
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 27, 2011 3:11 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

dapat toddler pa lang binabatas na mga kids nyo.

DI AKO NAMAMALO ever since but now mga kids ko are teenagers na ang sakit ng ulo ko lang sa kanila ay TAMAD MAGLIGPIT NG GAMIT, un lang. lolz

but when i said NO... ITS A NO!

dati makukulit sila nung maliit but walang palo, dinadaan ko sa process na magtatanda sila without hitting them.

one time my son wants to play, inabot ng lunch sa kalye, tinawag ko, ayaw "i want to play"... ok play pala gusto mo not lunch.

what i did I LOCKED THE GATE AND DOORS ng house para di sya makapasok.

inabot sya ng gutom sa labas ng gate, begging to let him in. di na daw sya uulit...

ayun since then pag tumawag ako that its time to eat... nagtatakbuhan papunta sa mesa ^___^

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 27, 2011 3:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Nice! Thanks for posting!

I am a mother of a 4yr old girl. She's fine naman but sometimes she is just too hyper at times i'll lose my temper... Pinapalo ko sya when she has done a terrible mistake but I only beat her hands or legs with my own hands lang din. It pains me to see her crying after the beating pero ineexplain ko naman sa kanya why mommy has to do that. BUT, I dont always use pamamalo as a form of discipline. Sometimes, I'll do things like mamu byatch said, na makakapagtanda sa kanya.

And when I say NO, means NO. I want reinforce kasi na hindi lahat ng gusto nya ay pwede nyang makuha. I always tell her na may right time for everything.

I'll be proud to say, she is a well behaved, well mannered girl. Smile))

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 27, 2011 4:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm no-no to spanking too. Punishment comes in depending on what kind of trouble she gets herself into. For first time offense and it's not much of a big deal, she gets warning and explanation why it is wrong. If 2nd time offense or she's done something a slight serious, she will be grounded. For how long? It depends. If she's really into serious offense, she has to stay inside the bathroom to figure out what she has done.
There are times that she really pisses me off, naku! silent treatment talaga!
The most important thing is she knows why she's being punished. Hindi yung basta na lang napagagalitan ang bata without her even knowing what exactly she has done. For that case, she might do it again.
Additionally, I keep on praying for her being in the right path and us (my hubby and I) to be good parents for her. Very Happy
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 27, 2011 4:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

that's what i do also pag galit na ko, i dont talk to them hahahaha.

dati sa mall nagwawala anak ko kasi gusto ng toy.... iyak sya ng iyak ang gustong gumulong.

what i did. iniwan ko! tago na di ka nya nakikita, titigil un sa kakaiyak hahahah

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 27, 2011 6:40 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

byatch wrote:
that's what i do also pag galit na ko, i dont talk to them hahahaha.

dati sa mall nagwawala anak ko kasi gusto ng toy.... iyak sya ng iyak ang gustong gumulong.

what i did. iniwan ko! tago na di ka nya nakikita, titigil un sa kakaiyak hahahah


ilan taon na anak mo, if you don't mind?
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PostPosted: Wed Aug 03, 2011 3:47 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

mokmafi wrote:
byatch wrote:
that's what i do also pag galit na ko, i dont talk to them hahahaha.

dati sa mall nagwawala anak ko kasi gusto ng toy.... iyak sya ng iyak ang gustong gumulong.

what i did. iniwan ko! tago na di ka nya nakikita, titigil un sa kakaiyak hahahah


ilan taon na anak mo, if you don't mind?


nung nagwawala sya sa mall, he was only 4-5 yrs old i think.

now he is 16 na hahaha!

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PostPosted: Wed Aug 03, 2011 4:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Siguro kc boylets yung sa'yo mamu!
I have never experienced yung pagdadabog ng dalaginding ko sa mall. We can get inside any toy shops and get out without any purchased made! Hanggang ngayon, mag-8 na yung panganay and mag-2 na yung bunso. Sana hanggang malalaki na eh nadadaan pa din sa kausapan. Very Happy
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 05, 2011 5:06 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

ayx03 wrote:
Siguro kc boylets yung sa'yo mamu!
I have never experienced yung pagdadabog ng dalaginding ko sa mall. We can get inside any toy shops and get out without any purchased made! Hanggang ngayon, mag-8 na yung panganay and mag-2 na yung bunso. Sana hanggang malalaki na eh nadadaan pa din sa kausapan. Very Happy


kasi dati spoiled sa sister ko ung unico iho ko kaya ganun. buti naging ok.
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 05, 2011 5:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

^_^ I am no expert in child psychology but I am a father of two lovely daughters...
Naranasan ko yang "scandalous moment" sa malls dito pero I remember it quite vividly na once lang nangyari sa amin yun. Me and my wife didn't react nung nasa mall kami habang nag wawala ang panganay ko pero pag dating sa bahay deretso sa kwarto at pinadapa namin then pinalo sa pwet.
Right after matapos ang pag iiyak nya we let her explain what she thought happened and then we follow up and explained the logic of what happened in our point of view. My youngest is also there to witness everything.

After nung incident na yun every time me gusto sila they ask us kung pwde or even bago kami umalis ng bahay they know if we can buy something outside or pure "lagaw" lang or whatever is the purpose. ^_^ we let them join the fun in planning a days out.
Plan with them...mas enjoy sila kapag alam nila ang araw na yun eh para sa kanila or para sa lahat. they don't expect.

So ngayon luckily d na naulit...ako na ang nagdadabog kapag lumalabas kami hehehehe ^_^
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 05, 2011 7:11 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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^_^ I am no expert in child psychology but I am a father of two lovely daughters...
Naranasan ko yang "scandalous moment" sa malls dito pero I remember it quite vividly na once lang nangyari sa amin yun. Me and my wife didn't react nung nasa mall kami habang nag wawala ang panganay ko pero pag dating sa bahay deretso sa kwarto at pinadapa namin then pinalo sa pwet.
Right after matapos ang pag iiyak nya we let her explain what she thought happened and then we follow up and explained the logic of what happened in our point of view. My youngest is also there to witness everything.

After nung incident na yun every time me gusto sila they ask us kung pwde or even bago kami umalis ng bahay they know if we can buy something outside or pure "lagaw" lang or whatever is the purpose. ^_^ we let them join the fun in planning a days out.
Plan with them...mas enjoy sila kapag alam nila ang araw na yun eh para sa kanila or para sa lahat. they don't expect.

So ngayon luckily d na naulit...ako na ang nagdadabog kapag lumalabas kami hehehehe ^_^


purely LAGAW na lang gid to? hahahah

so proud naman with my kids no kahit di na palo eh lumaki namang matino. di tulad ng nanay nila lolz

til now, ang PO and OPO is still there kahit andito na sila Sing and binatat dalaga na sila.

natutuwa me lagi that ang impression sa mga kids ko are MAGAGALANG.

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PostPosted: Fri Aug 05, 2011 7:18 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

byatch wrote:
nel_alone wrote:
^_^ I am no expert in child psychology but I am a father of two lovely daughters...
Naranasan ko yang "scandalous moment" sa malls dito pero I remember it quite vividly na once lang nangyari sa amin yun. Me and my wife didn't react nung nasa mall kami habang nag wawala ang panganay ko pero pag dating sa bahay deretso sa kwarto at pinadapa namin then pinalo sa pwet.
Right after matapos ang pag iiyak nya we let her explain what she thought happened and then we follow up and explained the logic of what happened in our point of view. My youngest is also there to witness everything.

After nung incident na yun every time me gusto sila they ask us kung pwde or even bago kami umalis ng bahay they know if we can buy something outside or pure "lagaw" lang or whatever is the purpose. ^_^ we let them join the fun in planning a days out.
Plan with them...mas enjoy sila kapag alam nila ang araw na yun eh para sa kanila or para sa lahat. they don't expect.

So ngayon luckily d na naulit...ako na ang nagdadabog kapag lumalabas kami hehehehe ^_^


purely LAGAW na lang gid to? hahahah

so proud naman with my kids no kahit di na palo eh lumaki namang matino. di tulad ng nanay nila lolz

til now, ang PO and OPO is still there kahit andito na sila Sing and binatat dalaga na sila.

natutuwa me lagi that ang impression sa mga kids ko are MAGAGALANG.


correction mamu, sobrang magalang! Nakakatuwa talga dahil marunong silang mag PO at OPO... nakakatanda nga lang pag kausap.... hehehe

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